Sometimes you have to let go of what you thought your life would be.

Find joy in the story you are actually living.

 

I used to envision my life in a very specific way.

This picture presented love and work, thrills, responsibilities  (not much – come to think of it now), health, wealth and family.

Next winter, I’ll be 38.

Ha!

With gains comes pains.

I like my life, but I’m far from most of my initial projections.

I have learned that compromises and concessions are important practices in our lives. 

At some point for everyone, life drags us through a series of readjustments or losses.

We must adapt, prioritize and/or turn away from beloved actions or even individuals. 

Time is required to grieve and heal from an important tragedy, obstacle or change.

Yes.

But moving on, with serenity, is vital.

 

How long is too long? It’s a very personal, it’s hard to say because time is so relative. We experience major setbacks living different lives and are surrounded by distinct environments.

The actual trauma/hardship can also greatly vary. It happens slow or quick, it’s completely out of our control or in the palm of our hands.

The hurdle may leave us with resentful pains, recuperation wishes and confused aromas. Plus general bonus: everything else can become monotonous and miserable.

I’ve lived on those spectrums for a long minute.

Ok. 

I downplayed a tad. Give or take several months?

Let’s say realistically : a year or so. But at some point I realized that I wanted to move forward.

In order to do so, I needed to let go of my heavy heart; and change those negative lenses. 

With broken and unaligned views: all I could see clearly –  were dark and pessimistic perspectives.  Plus. all that negative dwelling affects the positives. 

Alex. Enough. I had to shift gears.

Gosh, it might sound unsensitive. 

Life is hard, grieve and cry. Scream and sleep.

No rush. Please. 

But then…move on. 

The movement might not be so graceful at first. Eventually; the efforts and energy will help lighten the flow.

Move forward; because looking back and juggling negative feelings: is detrimental to any present state.

Often, I hear individuals recollect their past resentfully and talk about their present as if it was a life sentence. Evidently, their past is presently raw. 

It’s now actually: oppressive.

To successfully move on with love: it takes time, awareness and much “in-box” work.

At some point, it’s important to fold back stubborn fixations and to cultivate our graces. When I say cultivate; I mean cherish our daily blessings, contribute positively to our future and spread love in our surroundings.

So that initial pictured life: is much more like an altering canvas. 

It was a rough draft.

What I wanted so badly previously; isn’t so relative anymore. 

And what didn’t even make the first draw: is presently a mandatory requisite.

It’s crazy, but it makes sense: that’s life.

I don’t really review past projected pictures. It’s not me.

Life taught me to trust.

I don’t look back with regret, my attention is ahead.

I keep stepping and working, striving towards my current desires.

Looking forward is beneficial.

Cause really: If you walk or drive without looking ahead; you’ll stumble or crash.