Children learn how to behave and respond to others by observing how their caregivers interact with other people.

Observing is normal. 

I often share this action with my son.  He inquires about everything he sees.

 

I’m an adult and this next thing; I do sometimes.

Maybe, we all do?

In my heart, at my core: I know: there’s no point.

No benefit and no real validity.

Observing and categorizing ourselves with anybody else, or ranking others.

Comparable human thinking.

Really.  Why? 

It happens when I’m distracted or tired.

Basically: when I’m unaligned. 

The instant my awareness notices any comparative idea being developed: I cringe. 

Yash!

Rankings and comparisons; make me struggle.

Less, or more – better or worse.

How can I evaluate another person or another individual’s reality?

If two snowflakes are immensely different yet identical to our eye; how can it be possible to justly observe someone else?

Comparing places and things is already tricky; it’s often based on an opinion.

Android Vs Apple.

It’s debatable.

We don’t all possess similar knowledge or the same information.

Yet, we can all have an opinion.

I consider everyone as very unique, with an exclusive “in-box” and thus: a single particular reality.

I grew up in a family of three children. 

Same upbringing, same residence, we shared the same fridge and quiet nights. 

Even when we lived together, we had our unique “in-box” and distinctive experiences. We always held separate priorities and strengths.

#samefamilyyetdifferent

When I hear people rank themselves as the best: I keep quiet and nod.

I recognize this as their way of portraying confidence. It’s an ego scratch. 

Seldomly, if I participate in this: thoroughly; my entire gut dismisses it.

I can hear my inner self: “Ah, Alexa? You turned your conscious light off? BS!”

Truly, the best is: very.variable.

The worst changes as well.

I’m not the best.

One minute I’m amazing. The next; I struggle just to stay afloat.

Unquestionably: no one is the best, or the worst or any trait; continually.

And it’s interesting to notice: if and when I hear comparables, it’s primarily negative.

Why are we so critical?

When I hear people compare comfortably:”she’s so…” or “he’s inferior”, I wait.

I often hear judgment in the next spoken breath.

Myself; I can’t roll with judgment.

I don’t compute. 

First: I really have no right to assess anyone. 

Second: I can only “kinda” judge myself.

Even my personal judgment is biased.

So don’t turn to me. I stay disinterested.

I feel that we should never entertain ourselves to evaluate or to rank others. 

I respect the existence of competitions, sports or business rankings, school grades and particular contests.

I understand that for these particular instances; we evaluate individuals and make a timely decision. Certain preselected factors are agreed upon to determine the person/or team that will perform better. 

It’s possible to observe and relate to another person’s journey.

It may can bring determination and hope. It can be powerful and positive.

 

 

I know for sure: confidence is a very unique thing. 

Although fundamentally, comparing ourselves stems from a lack of self confidence. 

It’s authentic and real when it comes from within.

It can sometimes come from outside, and that feels nice: oh sure! – but it’s fleeting.

Confidence lives within, if it doesn’t come from ourselves: it’s not the real deal.

Best believe. To be uplifted or raise self assurance: there’s no need to look elsewhere or push others down. 

It’s a light within ourselves. Let’s get it right.

#nodistortedcomparables