“Love yourself so much, that when someone treats you wrong, you recognize it.”

Truth is: hurt people, hurt people.

I believe that I’m a loving and self-confident individual. 

I feel worthy of love and I also have a generous heart. 

Don’t get me wrong: some days are better than others. 

At times, I struggle with a shadow of bitterness and doubt. It follows me stubbornly.

It distracts from a peaceful and content mind. 

I try to recognize that the exact location, the destination is not so important.

I can’t stay still and always poised.

It’s about the journey.  Continually everyday; I aim to hold my inner peace and put in the work.

I’m proud of the person I am, I know how much I’ve evolved.

When I receive outside collateral damage, I invest efforts to remain peaceful.

Firstly, I take I breather. 

I remind myself of my “aware-principles”, it comes down to some “in-box” management.

In our daily lives, we encounter many different situations. We all go through motions. Smooth and rough.

Through these different situations, we interact with individuals who might be having a rough day, a tough week; a difficult time.

Some people are impatient, some are spiteful and others might be carelessly rude. 

When I was younger, I would often slip into the emotional recurring cycle: granting power and importance to people’s behavior while reacting to it.

Yup.

Guilty.

I’d also hold and juggle the aftermath emotions.

In such exchanges, it’s easy and contagious to get invested.

Awareness and maturity now help me maneuver these run ins. 

 

When someone treats us wrong, we should love ourselves enough to recognize it.

That’s the first step.

Then.

If this experience is seldom; if I know that I will probably never see this person again: I’ll just keep going my own way quietly.

No need for me observe or dwell on anything else.

Hence if you are someone I care for; or who I interact with often enough: I will then speak up.

I’ll also listen to the response and aim to remain open for self observation.

I’m far from perfect.

I do or say many wrong things. 

But when I do: I do so unconsciously. 

If I understand that my actions impact others negatively, I try to adjust myself accordingly. Hurting others is never my goal.

I think that people who aren’t happy with themselves, hurt others carelessly.

Most people are good. I really believe that.

For some individuals, the choice of peace and love – is very foreign.

It may be difficult or even unusual for them.

When I’m involved in a dispute or a disagreement and the other person is hurtful; I recognize the pain they hold.

It happens to everyone; being treated wrong, being blamed, receiving aggressive or unkind actions unfairly.

I may feel instant ego pulses and hear some reactive inner-whispers; but I don’t care to cultivate these types of reactions. I aim to shift my focus.

#takemychillpill

 

I observe the outburst development, the participation of pain and the controlling reactions.

It might sting.

Okay.

I remind myself: “stay right here Alex & be calm”.

In the end; I may feel a little ruffled; but it passes quick.

What remains is true compassion.

I have empathy towards hurtful shortcomings.

Hopefully, they get solved.

#WithPositiveResilience.

I aim to be kind and amicable with everyone. I don’t speak ill about anyone.

I want to stay conscious.

If individuals hurt others; it’s mostly caused by their own fears and their own pains. 

It’s not ours to hold.

But I will pray for their pain to heal; and you can too.